
Robert de Loryn
Apr 30, 20252 min read
Beware the Candle Blower-Outers
Every organisation has them. You know who they are. The moment someone shines, speaks up, or dares to be different — they’re there . Ready to roll their eyes, undermine, question motives, or whisper a passive-aggressive comment under their breath. These are the candle blower outers — people who can't stand the light of others, so they try to snuff it out. A metaphor popularised by Brené Brown. They’re not always loud. In fact, they’re often subtle, calculated, and cloaked in